Humiliation

HUMILIATION

Craig's Observations:
Read
Carly's
feelings

Please remember that edge play is FANTASY. But it never seems more real than when playing scenes of humiliation.

This is a really tough one.

As I've stated before, my greatest sexual stimulation comes from getting my partner off.

Of all the kinks I have explored, humiliation is by far the hardest for me. It runs contrary to everything I have ever been taught, and is contrary to the way I have treated and interacted with women my entire life.

I remember the first time Carly brought it up, I didn't even understand what she meant or wanted. It took a lot of exploration to even begin to understand. And it was exploration more than explanation, because it was something that was as hard for her to express as it was for me to comprehend.

At first I really didn't understand what she wanted. I forced myself to call her forbidden names. I very gingerly explored possible issues that might be points of sensitivity. After a while I developed a style which at least enabled me to get through a humiliation scene. At first they largely consisted of silence because I had to think carefully about what I was going to say to her next.

I eventually realized how powerful these scenes are. Although I still don't understand them completely, I now realize that they are a tremendous sexual turn on for some women. And now that I have come to better understand how sexually powerful they are I confess that I actually enjoy being able to provide an experience like that for my partner. Perhaps it is because they are so forbidden and so difficult to do that I now really enjoy watching and doing them.

Humiliation scenes are primarily done in private. They are hard enough to do as it is, but most people are repulsed by them because they don't recognize them as a sexual turn on for the woman. (And trust me they are! In the consensual environment that I play in, no woman I know would take a humiliation scene for more than a few seconds if she were not into it.) As hard as they are to do in private, they are even harder to do in public (semipublic really - they are still too edgy for most people to observe). But some women are into public humiliation. Eventually as we did more of these scenes in private, Carly expressed a desire to add elements of humiliation to our public scenes as well.

As I think back on it, Carly was not the first girl I've encountered that got off on humiliation. I was once in a group experience when the girl I was with softly asked me to spank her. I thought that was odd, but by the way she asked for it, I now recognize that it was a request for a humiliation experience. This was reinforced when her husband started calling her names and talking to her in a very derogatory manner. He said I should do the same. Quite frankly, I was clueless at the time and couldn't do it. I felt bad for her and really thought he was being abusive to her, so I did the best I could to make her feel good sexually, and build her up at the same time - all without breaking the mood. He would call her a whore and order her to fuck my face and I would say something like - "yea she's a really good cock sucker." I now realize that I totally missed the point. What I said quite possibly detracted from her enjoyment rather than added to it. Thinking back on it, I can now see the clues in her demeanor and body language. The fact that she asked for more.

I have now done many humiliation scenes with Carly, and a few with other women as well. For women who are into them they are extremely erotic. When we play at private parties it is extremely rewarding to find the right triggers and actions that will make a humiliation scene work. The woman won't tell you directly - she can't most of the time. I like the exploration, the reading of body language that tells you what she wants. If you think your partner is into this, you owe it to her to yourself to explore it. But I warn you, to people not familiar with what is happening they make the man look like a total ass.

Humiliation is an element in some of the photographs and stories you will see here in the Bondage Demons site. If it offends you, believe me I understand - so please just turn away and enjoy the rest of what you see. But please also be aware that for some it provides a very strong sexual stimulation and is completely consensual.

Above all, remember - its a FANTASY.

Craig's Observations:	Read Carly's feelings
Please remember that edge play is FANTASY. But it never seems more real than when playing scenes of humiliation.
This is a really tough one. As I've stated before, my greatest sexual stimulation comes from getting my partner off. Of all the kinks I have explored, humiliation is by far the hardest for me. It runs contrary to everything I have ever been taught, and is contrary to the way I have treated and interacted with women my entire life. I remember the first time Carly brought it up, I didn't even understand what she meant or wanted. It took a lot of exploration to even begin to understand. And it was exploration more than explanation, because it was something that was as hard for her to express as it was for me to comprehend. At first I really didn't understand what she wanted. I forced myself to call her forbidden names. I very gingerly explored possible issues that might be points of sensitivity. After a while I developed a style which at least enabled me to get through a humiliation scene. At first they largely consisted of silence because I had to think carefully about what I was going to say to her next. I eventually realized how powerful these scenes are. Although I still don't understand them completely, I now realize that they are a tremendous sexual turn on for some women. And now that I have come to better understand how sexually powerful they are I confess that I actually enjoy being able to provide an experience like that for my partner. Perhaps it is because they are so forbidden and so difficult to do that I now really enjoy watching and doing them. Humiliation scenes are primarily done in private. They are hard enough to do as it is, but most people are repulsed by them because they don't recognize them as a sexual turn on for the woman. (And trust me they are! In the consensual environment that I play in, no woman I know would take a humiliation scene for more than a few seconds if she were not into it.) As hard as they are to do in private, they are even harder to do in public (semipublic really - they are still too edgy for most people to observe). But some women are into public humiliation. Eventually as we did more of these scenes in private, Carly expressed a desire to add elements of humiliation to our public scenes as well. As I think back on it, Carly was not the first girl I've encountered that got off on humiliation. I was once in a group experience when the girl I was with softly asked me to spank her. I thought that was odd, but by the way she asked for it, I now recognize that it was a request for a humiliation experience. This was reinforced when her husband started calling her names and talking to her in a very derogatory manner. He said I should do the same. Quite frankly, I was clueless at the time and couldn't do it. I felt bad for her and really thought he was being abusive to her, so I did the best I could to make her feel good sexually, and build her up at the same time - all without breaking the mood. He would call her a whore and order her to fuck my face and I would say something like - "yea she's a really good cock sucker." I now realize that I totally missed the point. What I said quite possibly detracted from her enjoyment rather than added to it. Thinking back on it, I can now see the clues in her demeanor and body language. The fact that she asked for more. I have now done many humiliation scenes with Carly, and a few with other women as well. For women who are into them they are extremely erotic. When we play at private parties it is extremely rewarding to find the right triggers and actions that will make a humiliation scene work. The woman won't tell you directly - she can't most of the time. I like the exploration, the reading of body language that tells you what she wants. If you think your partner is into this, you owe it to her to yourself to explore it. But I warn you, to people not familiar with what is happening they make the man look like a total ass. Humiliation is an element in some of the photographs and stories you will see here in the Bondage Demons site. If it offends you, believe me I understand - so please just turn away and enjoy the rest of what you see. But please also be aware that for some it provides a very strong sexual stimulation and is completely consensual.
Above all, remember - its a FANTASY.