The second time I played with Carly I was still pretty tentative with her. We have a ‘long distance relationship' which I'll get into at another time, but as with any relationship it takes a while to get comfortable. We started out the weekend at a local fetish show and later spent more time at her place.
I had always been into bondage, but somehow my fantasies never really involved pain (OK a nipple clamp or two). Apparently Carly's did. Carly was into real time torment.
Whereas I had always fantasized about abduction, coercion, and restraint, her fantasies centered more on physical duress - nipple torture, spanking, hot wax, flogging.
Knowing that she liked having her nipples pinched, I had bought her
an unusual set of nipple clamps that caught my eye at the fetish show.
I must admit that at first they were a little awkward. 
I
had to grab the very end of her tit and yank it through the narrow opening,
all the time pushing and massaging her breast so as to force the nipple
through. And then I had to hold the tip of her nipple tight and push the
bars back against her breast as I cranked down on the jack screws that
crushed the now elongated nipple and areola. At first I worried that I
would squash them flat, but the construction of the clamp prevented that.
Even so I was amazed at the reaction I was getting as the bars relentlessly
squeezed the ends of her tits. The results were truly spectacular! The
very first time I put them on her she came standing right there
in front of me. Now mind you this was at a time before we started having
sex, so I was majorly impressed to say the least. It was a really
hot scene. I got off almost as much as if I had done her ‘myself'.
Later on we decided to do another hot wax scene. As I mentioned before, she really likes the burning sensation of hot wax dripping on her skin. This scene was a lot longer than the one at our first play session, and I explored more sensuous areas - but on the other hand we didn't use the 1000 degree candles this time (just kidding). Nonetheless, another painful physical sensation.
Communication is extremely important in edge play, and Carly is a good communicator in this regard. As we got to know each other better, we started talking about what we liked and the types of things we wanted to try. She wanted to explore flogging and clamps, I wanted to try rope dresses and gags.
At one point Carly said she wanted me to spank her. I looked at her with a somewhat blank stare and said "do what?" I was raised to never hit a girl, and I had always viewed spanking as a form of corporal punishment. But to her it was another physical stimulation and an erotic one at that. It took me a while to get used to the idea, but I was game so we tried it.
I'm told that there are spanking ‘experts' out there - and now I believe it. It can be a very erotic sensation for a girl - and painful, and if done properly a little of both. I still have a lot to learn. But guys, if a girl asks you to spank her, my advice is to pay attention - she's trying to tell you something.
In our next several meetings we will have many such conversations. We both have a lot to teach each other - or more correctly a lot to learn together.